So your ex is in a rebound relationship with your best friend? It would be fair to agree that there is no way to look at this particular delicate situation positively. Whichever way you look at it, it feels bad and it must also hurt a lot. The person you loved or love with someone you once thought to be your best friend. Truth is, not all friends are what they call themselves. Human beings are after all animals who no doubt evolved from eating out of garbage bins but we have not evolved as much as we would have liked to. Anyway, if your ex is in a rebound relationship with your best friend, there are basically two approaches that you can adopt to the situation. You can take things gracefully accepting that your ex is a jerk and that your best friend was not really what she called herself or you can go ballistic about it behaving like a lioness whose cub is being threatened. We recommend the first approach, which is taking things gracefully with as much dignity as you can muster.
How to take your ex dating your best friend gracefully
Your ex is dating your best friend. We can only imagine what that must feel like and you can bet that no one can accurately quantify or qualify what you are feeling at this point in time, that feeling of having been utterly betrayed. Laying awake at night, it’s only too easy to picture the person you once shared your life with and your best friend in bed, legs intertwined, making a fool out of you, laughing at you. The best thing you can do under these circumstances is not give them the satisfaction of knowing that that they got to you. You will need to be calm and not panic although going hysteric can seem very easy and tempting.
If your ex is in a rebound relationship with your best friend, it’s ok for you to feel sad, miserable, angry and betrayed but you will need to handle the situation with care. Do not expose your emotions out there, raw and vulnerable. Play it cool. Pretend or rather convince yourself that you don’t care. In a way, if you look at it rationally, if the guy you loved and offered yourself too hooked up with your friend, he ever really cared in the first place and that puts you in the position to loathe him instead of mourn him. No woman or girl deserves that kind of treatment. The world is filled with possibilities that you can’t probably even begin to imagine. Give yourself a change to be happy. Do not let anger consume you or worse blind you. Do not let people destroy you. Live your life on your own terms.
Actually if truth be told, if your best friend is in a relationship with your ex, you should be feeling sorry for her because she knows what she is doing and while she might feel a perverted sense of triumph at the beginning, it will wear off. If fairy tales taught us anything, it’s not that all stories end happily, it’s that good always triumphs over evil.
Take this difficult phase of your life one step at a time and keep yourself busy. Maybe when you are confident enough, you can even go out with your treacherous friend and unscrupulous boyfriend just to truly make them feel ridiculous about what they did and what they are doing. Obviously if you are positively crazy about your ex, all you can do is be patient but then again, even if he does come back, what are the chances that he’ll come back a redeemed person?
Learning how to cope with your friend dating your ex takes a lot of willpower but more importantly you need to have a strategy. Get your act together now!