Are you hurting from a recent bitter breakup? Is everyone you know telling you that it’s over and that it’s best for you to let go? Chances are, these people are right but the thing is, many people argue that true love only happens once and if you are convinced that your ex is the person who is meant for you then it would be incredibly stupid for you not to fight for your happiness or at the very least give it your best shot. When it comes to getting your ex back, there is no magic potion that you can brew to make the person come back to you, unless there is such a thing as Hogwarts and you kind of study there. Breaking up with someone you love with all your heart can be a horrible and incredibly painful experience but if you want your ex back, you are going to have to come up with a strategy to being the person back in your life.

Things not to do after a breakup
1. Begging, pleading and being downright needy
If you’ve just been dumped, then the last thing you want to do is let your world fall apart reducing yourself into a puddle of wanton and need. It’s terribly unattractive and perhaps it’s the biggest mistake you can make.
2. Developing the Doormat Syndrome
When it comes to relationships, the Doormat Syndrome is that phase in a relationship when you get out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness and pleasure to please your unscrupulous partner. Put quite simply, it’s basically what happens when a person decides to put up with just about anything including abuse and cheating just to hang onto a relationship that’s not even working.
3. Don’t freak out if your ex moves on
After a breakup it’s very common for people to have rebound relationships. If that happens to you and your ex starts seeing someone else even before you get the chance to dry your tears, don’t freak out. Think of it as a natural thing, something you need to accept together with realizing that something went wrong with the relationship you had.
Things you want to do after a breakup
After a breaking up with someone you desperately want back, you need to maintain your calm keeping your wits about you. Obviously if you love the person more than anything else in the world, putting up with the distance and void between the two of you can prove to be a challenge but it’s just something you will have to work past. After breaking up, take a break. Take some time off the person to figure out what it is you truly want. Reconnect with your old mates or take up a hobby that you once had but you never had a chance to pursue. If nothing else, you can simply choose to concentrate on your work for a while. Whatever you do, do not panic. Once you are sure you pulled yourself together, you can rekindle a casual relationship with your ex, staying on a friendly term.
Don’t be resentful and don’t do things you will live to regret.
Getting your ex back
Once you are done pulling yourself into some semblance of order and this normally takes up to a month, regain contact with your ex. For this to happen, you will need to make the opening move if the person didn’t yet. Often, people argue that a handwritten letter does the trick better than anything else.
If you are successful reconnecting with your ex, set up a meeting, not a dinner, not a movie. You want the “date” to be short and sweet but whatever you do and although you know deep down what you are up to, don’t mention the word date.
For your first let’s call it date, be the person your ex fell in love with. Show them that you’ve changed and that you are back to what you used to be. Whatever you do, don’t mention your past relationship. Just enjoy the moment and let the chips fall where they may.
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