It doesn´t matter why you broke up with your ex, you are probably feeling pretty low. No matter who did the dumping, break ups are almost always painful and unpleasant and tend to cause you to rethink your life and who you are, especially if you were together for quite some time. But you can use your break up for a positive change and let it turn you into a better person.

Everyone goes through that horrible self analysis after a break up. You wonder what you could have done differently . . . if you would have stayed together if you had just lost that extra weight or if you hadn´t argued so much. There are a lot of what ifs and it´s too late to go back and change them. But, you can certainly change how you do things in the future!

Breaking up with your ex could be just the motivation you need to do a little self-improvement. There are two main forms of this, outer and inner self-improvement. Both require some effort to obtain, and exactly what your goals are will depend on the individual. What you need to change isn´t necessarily what someone else would need to improve on.

Outer self-improvement after a break up involves looking good. This in turn, helps you feel better about yourself. So, take the time to evaluate what you don´t like about yourself physically and then take steps to change it. There´s no need for plastic surgery, but you might want to consider getting your teeth whitened, getting a new haircut or changing your wardrobe and updating it. For some, this could mean getting a membership to the nearest gym and toning up or losing a few pounds. All of these are outer changes, but they can still help you feel better. When you look good and know it, you often have more self-confidence, which is very important after breaking up with someone you love.

Inner self-improvement is a bit tougher, but just as important. After a big break up, you´re probably taking a long hard look at yourself anyway, so now is an excellent time to decide which character flaws you want to fix. Make a list of them. Now, since you are probably very emotional at this point, you´re going to have a lot more than you really need to fix. If you have a good friend, get a second opinion on what you need to change. You can probably narrow the list down to just two or three things. Don´t go overboard and try to turn yourself into a completely different person, even if that´s a tempting thought!

Next, you need a plan. How are you going to work on these flaws? What can you do to be a better person? Remember that it´s almost impossible to change overnight, but if you have mini goals, it´s far easier to reach the main goal. For example, if you decide that you need to be happier, you might make a point of doing something you enjoy every day and later add in writing a daily journal where you put something that you´re happy about each evening. Step by step, you´ll reach your goal and become a better person.

Breaking up isn´t necessarily the worst thing that can happen to you. Even if you hope to get back together with your ex, a little self-improvement can´t hurt! You´ll benefit from higher self-esteem and feeling great about yourself and if you get back with your ex, he or she will also benefit from the positive changes you´ve made!

Ready to make some improvements in your life, but just aren´t ready to give up on your relationship? Magic of Making Up can help you get back with your ex.